Allah teaches us to repel evil with that which is better: good (Surat al-Mu’minoon 23:96, Surah Fussilat 41:34). So for example, when someone is mean to us, we reply them with kindness. If someone wrongs us, we forgive. When we are tested or faced with a difficulty, we respond with an overflowing of good. We pray a little longer, give a little more in charity, help a little more, smile more. We repel evil with something better. It is a characteristic possessed by the people of the Best Home (Paradise; Surat ar-Ra’d 13:22). It is a quality that is gifted to those who are patient (Surah Fussilat 41:35).
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “Whosoever would be chaste and modest, Allah will keep him chaste and modest, and whosoever would seek self-sufficiency (relying on no one but Allah), Allah will make him self-sufficient, and whosoever would be patient, Allah will give him patience. And no one is granted a gift better and more comprehensive than patience.” (Muttafaqun ‘alayh)
Our pain and our loss, they do not define us. But our patience does. And believe me when I say that we are well-equipped to handle the challenges that come our way, because Allah, the Extremely Merciful and Kind, He does not burden any soul with more than it can bear (Surat al-Baqarah 2:286). Lastly, patience is a process so practice it, and repel evil with that which is good. These are from ihsaan (excellence). And Allah loves the muhsinoon (those who excel in goodness; Surat al-Baqarah 2:195, Surat al-‘Imran 3:134) and Allah loves those who are patient (Surat al-‘Imran, 3:146).